All Things Considered

Things that were frustrating about being married:

1) There comes a point when you realize that your spouse is not you, and sometimes will not agree with you about how something should be done and will, in fact, never agree with you. And there isn't a darn thing you can do about it.

2) You always have to make sure you are signed in as yourself on Facebook, lest you friend-request or comment as the wrong person.

3) You have to take turns with video games, computers, laptops, ect.

4) Going out to eat costs two times as much and ice cream lasts half as long.

5) Voluntelling. (Where your spouse volunteers you for something and then tells you about it after the fact.)

6) Sometimes you want to stay up later or go to bed earlier than he/she does... but you can't.

7) Almost all decisions require you to "check in" with your spouse... and it really sucks when he/she vetoes something you really wanted to do.


Things that are frustrating about being single:

1) You never have a reliable backup plan when everyone else is busy or out of town.

2) If you are thirsty you always have to get your own dang drink.

3) There is a constant undertone of insecurity and wondering how you are coming across to complete strangers.

4) It's hard to get a second opinion on fashion risks, someone else's thoughts on personal matters, the lid off the pickle jar, and something off the top shelf.

5) The girl always has to drive, take out the trash, and change the lightbulbs. The guy always has to bake, do laundry and dishes, and pay attention to how things smell.

6) There are lot fewer "inside jokes" and a lot less laughter.

7) There is no one to talk about your day with or fall asleep next to.

Things that were frustrating about being a caregiver for a loved one with cancer:

1) Everything that frustrated him

2) And pretty well everything else, too, except how much I loved him.

Conclusion:

I guess what I'm saying is there are good and bad things about where my life is, now. Yeah, I have a preference as to what I'd like it to be- but, all things considered, I can enjoy where I am, too.